We live very busy lives with older (but still in the nest) teenagers that just keep our schedules wrecked. Like so many couples, we used to be very free and open around each other. We’d talk about sex often and she looked forward to “hanging out.” But with our schedule these past years, we just haven’t been very connected and certainly haven’t been as open with each other as we used to be.
Feeling like we needed to slow down and talk more, I attempted to ask her questions about her evolved likes and dislikes several times in the past months. Those conversations didn’t go well as she’d tell me she was feeling interrogated, put on the spot, and that she didn’t want to give me an answer for fear that I’d hold her to it.
We’d planned a couple weekend together without kids and I bought these to “play” on the way up. She opened the box, would read the question, and then we’d take turns answering with our points of view. I figured we’d get 10 cards in and she’d find some reason to end the “game.” I couldn’t have been more wrong. We got through the entire deck before we reached our destination. And then she starts saying things like “why didn’t you tell me you felt this way before” and “why didn’t you just ask before.” I was literally perplexed. I looked like the dog trying to figure out the magic trick. I haven’t experienced my wife being this open and talkative about intimacy in YEARS. Some of that was the trip sans kids for sure … but the difference in our conversations once the ice was broken was literally night and day.
Fast forward … I don’t have an answer for why a deck of cards with questions can get folks to talk freely … but this is the single best investment I’ve ever made in my marriage.
Mind. Still. Blown.
Expansion pack please!
These were cute! The blocks are smaller than regular Jenga (makes sense since there are 69 blocks versus the 54) and easier to wiggle out. We picked up the game to switch things up on our game night. A ton of of fun and laughs. Play with drinks - its more fun!
The only sex question game worth it. Thoughtful product. Glad to see they have other games too
The cards are honestly really funny and do bring up topics that you wouldn’t think about sometimes so it’s nice to get outside your comfort zone!
Great product!! Told our therapist about the deck and she ordered one right away! Wonderful way to connect more deeply and drive meaningful conversation with your partner.
The packaging and quality of the card materials itself was very good. The box is sturdy and well-made, certainly capable of being shoved around in a bedside drawer for a while. In addition, it was sent with some fake rose petals which was a cute addition. I feel like the first 15 cards were not nearly as good as the rest. I almost quit using them, but if you keep going you’ll probably find cards you like more than others. Overall they are lots of fun and bring up topics you would probably otherwise never talk about!
I loved playing the game with my partner. The questions were fun and some led to deeper conversations. I feel closer to her now 🙂
The game is fun, although I feel the state of the relationship the players are in can make certain cards redundant (to give an example: asking about family history can work for new relationships, but may be skipped for those that have been dating for a while).
I think the progression of the intensity of the cards can be improved too: it supposedly goes from less to more intense, but there seem to be a mix mash of intensities a third of the deck in and that can be a slight turn off. All in all it is fun to play with your partner.
Hiiii! I actually really appreciate this review. Unlike the uphill climb of SEX TALK, I would def say that LOVE TALK is more like waves -- from deep to fun to personal, back to deep then romantic, etc etc. And truthfully, I feel love is that way -- lots of ups and downs, but a journey worth taking nonetheless xx
Super thoughtful questions!
This is a really fun game to play with your partner
I bought this for my husband and myself who are going through a bit of a rough time in our marriage. (We've known each other for seven years and have been married for five.) This is really helping so far to open up conversation. We do a couple of cards every night. We've liked most of the questions so far. I think they're pretty good for getting to know someone more intimately. I would recommend this to any couple who has been together for more than a few weeks really. In fact, I'm thinking of giving it as gifts to my parents and sister and brother-in-law.
The discussion that these cards started was indeed intense. At first we both were unsure about the deck of cards. We did skip a few questions (that we plan to return to at some point) but as we kept going, we got deep and connected in a very interesting way. I don't think this deck is for everyone, but if you're feeling brave, if you're feeling the pull -- I say go for it :P
This really gets you chatting as a couple! Who would have thought after 30 years of marriage and working together-there would be so many interesting things to learn about my each other. We have been enjoying this game very much.
Love this game! Conversations about love and sexuality can be difficult to initiate in any type of relationship, but this game makes it fun and approachable. I played it with my partner and at times it was uncomfortable as I had to confront challenges from my past, but being open to vulnerability made the experience more meaningful for the both of us. Highly recommend!
I have enjoyed the questions. It has sparked some great conversations.
These cards are great for starting the conversation about sex with your lover. If your lover is not used to talking about sex, this is a low-pressure conversation starter. I love how the cards progress and it really helps you to get your partner in a more intimate way!
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This is such a powerful tool for facilitating interpersonal communication. I would recommend it for all romantically partnered couples but also for personal self-reflection and even between friends. The questions are thought provoking but not intimidating.
I enjoyed playing this game with both my partner and a friend, to deepen both my relationship with my partner but also my own individual relationship to intimacy alongside friends. I found some of the questions asked about reflections on shame that were uncomfortable as they brought up memories from days of compulsory heteronormativity that would rather be forgotten. We decided to just skip these now. We haven’t gotten thru the whole deck yet, but so far have mostly enjoyed the conversations.
I don't even know where to begin. This set of cards was better than I ever could have hoped for. My partner and I really unlocked some magic together with this deck. We became so much closer by the end of it, and the memory of this experience is truly unforgettable. So excited for the Love Talk deck!
Sex is fun. Sex is intimate. Sex is lust. But sex is also hard. For me, when opening up with another person in such a personal way, I found it hard to communicate what I was truly desiring. Don't get me wrong I love sex. But a big struggle I kept facing was timing. My partner understanding it takes me longer to reach climax. Faking and pleasing myself privately later was all I knew. Each time it was "my turn", I felt pressure against the clock to get there faster. It was taking away from what I wanted from sex and the connection I wanted to feel with my partner.
This game allowed me to lay all the cards on the table, quite literally. I found a way to let myself be honest with my partner of four years and not feel shame about where my problems were in the bedroom. Because let's face it, as a female growing up you educate yourself along your journey into adulthood about sex and self acceptance comes with time and maturity. The game allowed me to let go of what I was building up inside, out of fear of insulting my partner. It allowed me to embed self care and self love into my sex life. I really wish I had a game like this sooner.
I initially brought Sex Talk to share with my partner, then I brought 3 more to include in my Game Night Sexual Intellect Edition and had my guest answer the question in written form anonymously. It made the conversation more interesting and in an open discussion format and they loved it! I recommend ever couple to invest in Sex Talk. It’s worth it!
I am so glad that this game exists as a tools both for individuals and for couples. I work in the field of sex education and have told a number of my adult students to use this game first to ask themselves what they want and how they feel. Then, once they understand their own perspectives better, to bring these into any data relationship they may be starting.
The game was so awesome we enjoyed every question! However, the condoms were terrible quality and hurt both of us
Oh no! I’m so sorry about this, Delaney. This is the first I’ve heard of this. I will keep this top of mind for new product. Thank you for this feedback! And I’m so glad you both enjoyed the questions <3
I bought these cards for an anniversary gift. I think overall these are ideal for a newer relationship and not necessarily an established couple who has been together for several years. There are an awkward number of questions that require you to talk about past sexual experiences/partners which I didn’t love. Overall we enjoyed the questions and did learn some new things though.
Hi K.W.! Thank you so much for this honest review.
One of my missions for this game was to help normalize conversations about sexual experiences -- past, present, and future. My hope is that those discussions are enlightening, even if a little awkward, and accepting towards all parts of our journeys. I hope it was still a great anniversary! And I'm so glad that overall you enjoyed the questions and that you learned some new things (which, to me, is the most important part) :)